Ways to Win the App Dating Game
When online dating was first created there were plenty of naysayers. There were people who declared that it was only for those who never ventured outside, people who assumed it was for social misfits, and of course, people who said it was just a fad and wouldn’t last. Fast forward to the year 2017 and basically everyone is on/has tried dating online or on apps. So now, there is this whole new era of natural selection; those who continue to naysay and those who adapt to the new way. If you want to be a part of the latter, here are a few tips...
Don’t blame the game, blame the player
It may be easy for you to put all the blame of your dud dating game on the apps you use but I’m here to burst your bubble. Think about it, you shuffle from dating app to dating app yet you’re still not getting the results you want. What’s the common denominator here? Answer: it’s you. So stop playing the victim of your circumstances and start adapting! Because like it or not, app dating is here to stay.
Be ready to date more people without getting invested
The fact of the matter is, dating apps have significantly increased the pool of potential daters for us to wade through. Because of this, you have to expect to see and date more people before you find someone that you can really connect with. So don’t get discouraged when you find yourself on your 15th first date, just remember that you’re in this for the long haul and it will all pay off in the end.
See dating as a fun activity, not a means to an end
Don’t go into every date expecting it to result in a long term relationship. This mindset will make you see every date as something you have to do to get something you want. When you see it that way, dating will become such a drag especially when it never leads anywhere further. So just relax and actually try to enjoy your dates. Plus, a relaxed you is surely hella more approachable that a highly strung relationship-hungry you.
Once you’ve match and made a connection with someone, get their phone numbers and get the hell off your apps and social media. This will help you decipher which matches are serious about meeting and which ones are just fooling around. On top of that, you get to feel out your connection with someone over the phone before deciding to meet them in person!
So there you go. I think it’s safe to say that, as a society, we need to come together and admit that dating will never regress away from the online landscape. And because of this, we need to collectively decide that we need to get better at it. If you haven’t already, don’t forget to register for Jodi!