7 Ways to Spot a Toxic Partner

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you’re made to feel like the crazy one no matter how rational you are? Or maybe you’re in a relationship with someone who never reciprocates the nice things you do for them. Or perhaps your partner constantly deflects blame for anything they do and always sees themselves as a victim. If any of the above sound familiar to you then you probably have a toxic partner on your hands. If you’re still unsure, here are a few more classic toxic characteristics...

They deflect blame

Toxic people don’t take responsibility for anything harmful or hurtful that they do or have done to you. They will always somehow make you feel like it’s your fault.

They never change their ways

Every human makes mistakes. Some humans even make mistakes repeatedly. The difference is, when a toxic person says they’ll change, they’re just doing it to get you off their back, not because they actually mean it.

They don’t mean it when they say sorry

It’s easy to say you’re sorry when you don’t really mean it. They’re just words after all. It takes a strong person to actually take full responsibility for their actions and feel remorse for what they’ve done. Toxic people however, will never see fault in themselves.

They can’t empathise

Toxic people don’t see beyond themselves and how they feel. This means that they are completely incapable of feeling empathy towards someone other than themselves. Don’t expect a toxic person to acknowledge your feelings, let alone support you through them.

They take too much and give too little

Toxic people think that the world revolves around them and they expect everybody’s actions to reflect this. So they’ll expect you to give all of yourself to them while they’ll only ever reciprocate when it’s convenient or beneficial for them to do so.

They always see themselves as victims

It doesn’t matter if they are the aggressor in a fight or if they are the cause of their own problems, toxic people will always position themselves as the victim.

They are insecure

Toxic people are generally very insecure about themselves and their lives, and they usually see their failures in other people’s success. A toxic person would make you feel bad for branching out and doing something different because they want to mask the fact that they are too scared to do the same.

If you nodded along as you read this article then it’s safe to say you probably have or are experiencing a toxic relationship. Do yourself a favour and just walk away. Trust me.