Haunting, the New Ghosting (yes, it gets worse).

So we’ve all heard of the ghosting phenomenon; where a potential/committed love interest takes a sudden exit out of your life and disappears off the face of the earth. But what is now becoming more and more common (thanks to social media, of course) is the “haunting” that follows. This “haunting”, however isn’t something that can be cleansed with a little bit exorcism (it’s not that easy). Before we delve into how to exorcise the ghosts from your life, however, let’s get into what “haunting” actually is…

“Haunting” happens when the ghoster decides to remain on your radar by indirectly interacting with you on any of your social pages. For example, they’ll like your Instagram or Facebook posts, retweet a funny quote you tweeted, or most commonly, view all of your Snapchat stories religiously. And although they’ll happily give you indirect attention by keeping tabs on your social game, they will never actually send you a direct message or god forbid, actually talk to you in real life. So no, you will not receive an explanation for their ghosting, so don’t get your hopes up.

“So, why does it happen?” you may ask…

Long story short, it happens because people suck. Most of the time haunters haunt because they don’t want you to forget about them. No, it’s not because they’re interested in you or your life, or have suddenly decided they’re interested in starting a relationship. The sinister reason behind their haunting is simply that it strokes their ego knowing that you know that they’re still watching you. It’s a psychological game meant to confuse, excite and disappoint it’s victims all in one fell swoop.  

But before you succumb to their ghostly presence, here’s what you can do…

Haunters only haunt when they are given the tools to do so. So, believe it or not, you’re the one that’s in control in this situation. If you’re tired of the constant reminders of your ghoster, just block or unfriend them from all your socials (yeap, no ouija board necessary).

I know, it can be hard to let go of someone you never truly had, it can feel like you’re cutting off the only tether you have to that person. But believe me when I say that by getting rid of this egotistical presence, you’re making way for a much more positive and loving one.

 

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